Outdoor Weddings – 7 Essential County B’s

Posted by on Feb 19, 2018 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Outdoor Weddings – 7 Essential County B’s

Outdoor Weddings  –  7 Essential County B’s

Beautiful, bountiful Prince Edward County! It’s ideal for a wedding away from the city – especially if you love nature and want an outdoor one. Your outdoor wedding or commitment celebration in Prince Edward County may be elegant or rustic, formal or casual, traditional or funky. You’ll find cool County venues, outstanding local County food, County musicians and artists, and other County event vendors ready to serve you. For weddings, there are even County officiants – you know, those people you can’t get married without but who take up little to no space in bride magazines! I am one of those. Almost all the ceremonies I create and officiate are for weddings held outside – in fields, gardens, woods, vineyards, barns, on a dock or on a beach. Have I ever learned about the birds and the bees! Since 95% of the couples I serve come from outside of The County to enjoy its natural elements, and most of their guests are city folk, I’d better share what I’ve learned. About Essential B’s – 7 Tips for your Outdoor County Wedding  It’s all about the Bees! Bees are essential to the survival of humans on our planet. These 10 B’s are essential to the survival of couples marrying outdoors in the County: Bugs – it’s their territory! When you take your event outside, you are guests in bug territory. There are times of the year and times of the day when this is not a problem. If you don’t want to share space with these tiny and often abundant County creatures, check with your venue for those times. But, always be prepared for the officiant or member of the wedding party to take a quick swat at an errant mossie or other annoying winged thing during the ceremony. Breeze – nice but sometimes noisy! A breeze on a hot summer day is lovely. With breeze on a cool day, we can dress to stay warm. But, regardless of the temperature, the wind can blow a ceremony off course causing guests not to hear what’s being said or microphones to make loud, ugly sounds. If you and your officiant can stay chilled and are flexible, the ceremony can proceed and still be beautiful. Just hold onto the official papers, let the flowers take flight if they want, don’t worry about hair blown in your faces, then ditch the mic, gather guests closer to the action and shout! Also, if candles are a part of it, use wind proof ones you can switch on. Beach – dress for it! Swimsuits might not be what you have in mind for your ceremony, but remember to prepare for being at the beach. Remind your guests about beach footwear or coming with bare feet, and don’t forget the sunscreen and bug spray. And, if there could be waves, plan for them competing with the volume of speakers’ voices or amplification equipment. Then, there is sand! And children who are sure to get wet – have some towels handy. Brightness – sunshine can be too shiny! All couples pray for sunshine on their special day. For your outside wedding, check out the placement of the sun at the site at the time of year and time of day for your ceremony. Seat your guests so they are not looking into the sun. Remind guests to bring sunglasses, hats or visors – or provide parasols. And, sunblock! Sunglasses on the marrying couple are not ideal for your photos. Boots – are made for walking! Okay, this is the third reference to footwear, because it takes 3 repetitions for information...

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Modern Weddings – Fun, even Funky!

Posted by on Apr 27, 2017 in Opinion | Comments Off on Modern Weddings – Fun, even Funky!

Modern Weddings – Fun, even Funky!

Modern Weddings – Fun, even Funky! Today for wedding ceremonies, anything goes! The tried and true traditional way is always available and deeply meaningful for many couples. However, more and more, couples want ceremonies that uniquely present who they are – and they are not settling for the usual routine. And, why not? A wedding is a special celebration of the love between two people, in addition to being a legal commitment. Each person is completely distinctive. The love between two distinctive individuals cannot be replicated. It makes total sense that a celebration of their love be equally distinctive … one-of-a-kind. So, nowadays, we have “ceremonies with personality”. Couples want their guests to laugh and have fun during the ceremony. Some get down right funky about it. Vows include humour. Silly stories about the love-birds, dancing down the aisle, gliding to meet a bride on a hover board, drinking wine in a unity ritual, singing their vows – fun and funky do not take away from the serious commitment and meaningful exchange of vows. A completely personal ceremony designed specifically to reflect the couple’s shared sense of humour, unique style and personalities keeps guests engaged and make the ceremony a memorable and meaningful one. Modern day weddings, custom designed and one-of-a-kind, are usually fun and sometimes even funky! Life-cycle celebrants are expert at designing this kind of ceremony. Explore the idea of your own ceremony being like no other one. After all, if you want to have a dress or cake unlike anyone else’s, why settle for a ceremony that is not as uniquely...

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Talking Religion and Money

Posted by on Mar 19, 2017 in Information, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Talking Religion and Money

Talking Religion and Money

Talking Religion and Money My Mama taught me not to talk about politics, religion and money. But if you are planning a wedding, we must discuss at least your beliefs (religion?) and money… and sometimes politics too. Typically, couples seeking an officiant are not getting married in a church community. So, we talk religion and what your wishes are in that regard – your wish is, happily, my command. That’s that, about religion! But the first question is usually about money. What does it cost? The glib answer is “what’s it worth to you”? Officiant fees span a wide range, but so do their services. First, discover what is available – learn about the difference between officiants and the value added by a professional celebrant. That is not an easy job as many officiants use the same words to describe what ends up being very different results. Second, remember you get what you pay for. So, take advantage of a free consultation with a life-cycle celebrant or others who offer it to explore what kind of ceremony you want – even if you have been married before or have attended many weddings, you may not be sure. That consultation will give you lots of clues about the officiant’s work and the chance to ask discerning questions about value. Some of us will provide you with a detailed written price quote. Are all officiants created equal? Of course we were, but you be the judge of whether what we have to offer is equal. Check out our training and experience relevant to what you are looking for – as a speaker, as a ceremony specialist, in cultural marriage rituals, as a writer, as an organizer, as a coordinator, as a listener. If you want more than a 10-minute legal quickie, that any clerk can follow a format and do, all those skills are important. After confirming you would get the competences needed for the best job, check out whether the officiants’ style, personality and approach to your belief system or faith jives is a fit for you. A Life-cycle Celebrant who has specialized in marriages is both a professional ceremonialist and an officiant, so bring many skills and value-added services to the job. Find out what we uniquely offer. Although most of us have a range of services you may choose from, an average custom ceremony, with rehearsal, can easily require an investment of 20 or more value-packed hours of a celebrant’s time. Template ceremonies that take only 3-4 hours in total are also available from some officiants.   Tips: Decide on how important your ceremony is to you. Is the actual act of marrying important? Do you want your ceremony to be the heart of your wedding or not? (Unsure – do this quiz!) Look into officiant services early, before you nail your budget. Compare value and cost of a few different ones. Many couples check venue, photographers and clothing prices early and miss being well informed about officiant services. Consider what percentage of your total wedding budget you think the ceremony, a.k.a officiant services, deserves in comparison to photography, clothing and cake. Choose your officiant early and make the booking. The best celebrants are often engaged a year in advance, and there are only so many weekends in prime wedding season. Talk about both money and religion in selecting your celebrant, after you have done your research and are well informed. Match the unique value your officiant offers to what you uniquely value!...

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A Quiz – to Find the Right Officiant for You

Posted by on Feb 19, 2017 in Discovery | Comments Off on A Quiz – to Find the Right Officiant for You

A Quiz – to Find the Right Officiant for You Your wedding is important to you. It is a special day. You want it to be perfect. Do you know what “perfect” is to you? Does “perfect” involve your ceremony – the part where you say your vows and commit to a life together? If so, you will want to put thought and time into selecting the officiant or celebrant who will make that part happen. Do you want that part, i.e. the ceremony, to be beautiful, meaningful, funny, intimate and personal, or just short and minimal so you can get on with the party? If you want more than a minimal legalization ceremony, a celebrant with skill, love for this work, and experience will make all the difference! So choosing the right celebrant (or ordained officiant if you’re marrying in a religious institution) is essential if you want your ceremony to be everything you’ve dreamed of. There are budget officiants offering simple, low cost ceremonies There are high-end celebrants offering 5-star services, and there are others in between. Celebrants’ services vary and their fees reflect their experience, training and different quality services they offer. This quiz will help you work out what’s important to you when deciding on who you want to officiate your ceremony. QUIZ Rate the importance of each of the following statements to you as a couple, on a scale of 1 to 5: 1 Disagree     3 Don’t care     5 Fully agree 1. ___ I have no idea where to start with my ceremony creation so a step-by-step planning kit would be great. 2. ___ I want a celebrant who won’t get prissy about going barefoot on the beach. 3. ___ I do not want to sign the wedding register with a tacky plastic pen! 4. ___ It is important that I have rapport with my celebrant. 5. ___ I really don’t want crass, stupid or off-the-cuff jokes during my ceremony! 6. ___ At crunch time, I’d like my celebrant to be able to second-guess my needs if I’m unavailable. 7. ___ I really don’t want the same wedding my friends had – I want something unique and tailored to my style! 8. ___ It is important that someone rallies the groom and his attendants in preparation for my arrival. 9. ___ I like that my celebrant practices pronouncing our names and gets them right! 10. ___ It’s important to me that my celebrant makes our guests feel welcome. 11. ___ My ceremony is the most important part of the day – the vows we make are sacred and for life, so our ceremony should reflect the occasion. Results Add up your scores to find out what style of celebrant would be great for you… Score 33-55 Your ceremony is important to you. You recognize that the vows you make on your big day are once-in-a-lifetime promised to the person you love most, and that such vows deserve the full attention and respect of all involved – your guests, your celebrant and you, the couple. The celebrant that suits you is one that recognizes the privilege of their sacred task, and honours your special wishes during the creation and delivery of your ceremony. Book your celebrant early, as the truly professional celebrants tend to get very busy during wedding season! Score 22-32 If the ceremony is not the be-all-and-end-all focus of your day, your ideal celebrant is one who can facilitate your vow exchange smoothly so you can move on to the party. There is no need to meet them ahead of time or to...

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Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Posted by on Jan 9, 2017 in Information | Comments Off on Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible! There are very few requirements to be legally married – making a Declaration of Intent to marry – in front of a provincially registered officiant and 2 witnesses, purchasing a licence (or reading of bans in a church) and signing the licence and marriage register. That’s all. The straight goods on perfection: Beyond those few required elements, your perfect ceremony can be just about anything you want it to be – as long as the venue and your officiant are game. Go for it! You are not required to have religious content in your ceremony because your officiant is a “religious representative”. Many registered religious representatives will perform marriages outside of a church and are happy to do your wedding your way – to respect and reflect your beliefs, whatever they may be. You will be legally married regardless. There are a few restrictions every officiant must comply with – in addition to being assured that you both understand the serious commitment you are making in marrying, we may not proceed with solemnizing your marriage (doing the ceremonial legal steps) if we sense that either of you or your witnesses may be impaired by alcohol or drugs. You can have a wedding and not be legally married! A commitment ceremony is a wedding in every sense, but without the legalities. It may be simple or elaborate and does not require a provincially registered officiant. A celebrant who is expert in ceremony and ritual will make it deeply meaningful in whatever way you wish – and just leave out the legal stuff, if you wish. For your perfect ceremony, choose your officiant carefully. All wedding officiants are not the same. Be aware that, despite many describing their approach using the same words, our skills and services may differ significantly. There is no single standard. You have to check each one out carefully to understand what you will get. That said, there are groups of officiants who work in very similar ways – some because they are part of the same organization, e.g. All Seasons; others because they have the same professional training and ethical standards, e.g. Certified Life-cycle Celebrants™. Expect your ceremony to be perfect! It sure can...

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