Talking Religion and Money

Posted by on Mar 19, 2017 in Information, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Talking Religion and Money

Talking Religion and Money

Talking Religion and Money My Mama taught me not to talk about politics, religion and money. But if you are planning a wedding, we must discuss at least your beliefs (religion?) and money… and sometimes politics too. Typically, couples seeking an officiant are not getting married in a church community. So, we talk religion and what your wishes are in that regard – your wish is, happily, my command. That’s that, about religion! But the first question is usually about money. What does it cost? The glib answer is “what’s it worth to you”? Officiant fees span a wide range, but so do their services. First, discover what is available – learn about the difference between officiants and the value added by a professional celebrant. That is not an easy job as many officiants use the same words to describe what ends up being very different results. Second, remember you get what you pay for. So, take advantage of a free consultation with a life-cycle celebrant or others who offer it to explore what kind of ceremony you want – even if you have been married before or have attended many weddings, you may not be sure. That consultation will give you lots of clues about the officiant’s work and the chance to ask discerning questions about value. Some of us will provide you with a detailed written price quote. Are all officiants created equal? Of course we were, but you be the judge of whether what we have to offer is equal. Check out our training and experience relevant to what you are looking for – as a speaker, as a ceremony specialist, in cultural marriage rituals, as a writer, as an organizer, as a coordinator, as a listener. If you want more than a 10-minute legal quickie, that any clerk can follow a format and do, all those skills are important. After confirming you would get the competences needed for the best job, check out whether the officiants’ style, personality and approach to your belief system or faith jives is a fit for you. A Life-cycle Celebrant who has specialized in marriages is both a professional ceremonialist and an officiant, so bring many skills and value-added services to the job. Find out what we uniquely offer. Although most of us have a range of services you may choose from, an average custom ceremony, with rehearsal, can easily require an investment of 20 or more value-packed hours of a celebrant’s time. Template ceremonies that take only 3-4 hours in total are also available from some officiants.   Tips: Decide on how important your ceremony is to you. Is the actual act of marrying important? Do you want your ceremony to be the heart of your wedding or not? (Unsure – do this quiz!) Look into officiant services early, before you nail your budget. Compare value and cost of a few different ones. Many couples check venue, photographers and clothing prices early and miss being well informed about officiant services. Consider what percentage of your total wedding budget you think the ceremony, a.k.a officiant services, deserves in comparison to photography, clothing and cake. Choose your officiant early and make the booking. The best celebrants are often engaged a year in advance, and there are only so many weekends in prime wedding season. Talk about both money and religion in selecting your celebrant, after you have done your research and are well informed. Match the unique value your officiant offers to what you uniquely value!...

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Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Posted by on Jan 9, 2017 in Information | Comments Off on Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible!

Your Perfect Ceremony is Possible! There are very few requirements to be legally married – making a Declaration of Intent to marry – in front of a provincially registered officiant and 2 witnesses, purchasing a licence (or reading of bans in a church) and signing the licence and marriage register. That’s all. The straight goods on perfection: Beyond those few required elements, your perfect ceremony can be just about anything you want it to be – as long as the venue and your officiant are game. Go for it! You are not required to have religious content in your ceremony because your officiant is a “religious representative”. Many registered religious representatives will perform marriages outside of a church and are happy to do your wedding your way – to respect and reflect your beliefs, whatever they may be. You will be legally married regardless. There are a few restrictions every officiant must comply with – in addition to being assured that you both understand the serious commitment you are making in marrying, we may not proceed with solemnizing your marriage (doing the ceremonial legal steps) if we sense that either of you or your witnesses may be impaired by alcohol or drugs. You can have a wedding and not be legally married! A commitment ceremony is a wedding in every sense, but without the legalities. It may be simple or elaborate and does not require a provincially registered officiant. A celebrant who is expert in ceremony and ritual will make it deeply meaningful in whatever way you wish – and just leave out the legal stuff, if you wish. For your perfect ceremony, choose your officiant carefully. All wedding officiants are not the same. Be aware that, despite many describing their approach using the same words, our skills and services may differ significantly. There is no single standard. You have to check each one out carefully to understand what you will get. That said, there are groups of officiants who work in very similar ways – some because they are part of the same organization, e.g. All Seasons; others because they have the same professional training and ethical standards, e.g. Certified Life-cycle Celebrants™. Expect your ceremony to be perfect! It sure can...

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Wedding Legalities – Do you know?

Posted by on Nov 28, 2016 in Information | Comments Off on Wedding Legalities – Do you know?

Wedding Legalities – Do you know?

Wedding Legalities – Do you know? Hey Grooms and Brides … do you know? 1. Marriage is a legal term. To get married is to make a legally binding commitment. In Canada, this contract requires a provincially registered celebrant to do the job i.e. solemnize and register the marriage in accordance with the rules of the Province. 2. A minister of religion may or may not be a registered celebrant in the Province he or she is asked to do a wedding in. Religious representatives must be registered to qualify to solemnize a marriage. Be sure to check that out at LINK or you may not be married at the end of the ceremony. 3. Solemnization is the ceremonial process of marrying that, executed by a qualified celebrant or officiant in the presence of 2 witnesses, along with a marriage licence or bans, makes a marriage legal. 4. Wedding is not a legal term. It is a social rite or transition ceremony that marks moving from single status to married. You may have a wedding and go through an entire wedding ceremony with vows, ring exchange and more, and not be legally married. Or, you may have married some time before the wedding. 5. There are very few “must haves” in a marriage ceremony. Within the ceremony, if you have a marriage licence, there are only 4 mandatory elements for you to be legally married: – a formal Declaration of Intent to marry by each party – in the presence of witnesses over 18 years of age and a provincially registered celebrant – signing of the marriage licence and marriage register by the couple, witnesses and celebrant – being pronounced married by the celebrant. Everything else is optional. Now, you...

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